Pure Intimacy With a Stranger

Lorelai Parks
2 min readSep 16, 2023

Eye Gazing Meditation

Photo by Alexandru Zdrobău on Unsplash

We were asked to pick a partner and look into their eyes for 7 minutes.

It was the most touching thing I have experienced, and I think it should be part of couples counseling, family counseling, and trauma counseling.

It was intimate. It was acceptance, love, and vulnerability.

The eye gazing exercise: sit cross-legged, facing your partner, and let your knees or one knee touch slightly. Sit in stillness and silence.

We looked into the left eye.

Each blink said I am here for you; I hold space for you, and we are very much the same.

I see you.

All of the barriers, judgments, and preconceived notions fell away.

As we gazed, this person’s face started to change shape. At one moment, I thought I was looking in the mirror, I recognized myself in them.

I feel seen and whole.

You feel connected. We are one consciousness, so this does make sense. Unity.

Eyes are the window to the soul.

Self-consciousness, discomfort, awkwardness. I didn’t feel any of that, I felt acceptance and like I accepted that person fully for who they were. I felt compassion and intimacy between souls…

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